Another day without gambling


I am a periodic gambler. I can be very involved for two-to-three months with gambling, and at some point, I don't have an interest in it for months. Then, the urge comes back and the cycle starts again.

I think it is not a problem to gamble. It is how you act and think after a win or loss. My issues are as follows:

If I win, I think I should have bet more or I should have bet another game with my win to increase the output.. Also, if I can win, I should be able to win again without much issue.

If I lose, I get angry with myself. I tell myself I shouldn't be doing this. Then in a short period of time, I am back at it. Also, the untintelligible thought of winning the huge losses back in s hort period of time is always there.

Occasionally, I have won it back, or a part of it. I have stopped before when I won it back, and I have kept going and loss it again or loss more. I think it is not a case of will-power or lack of money, but the sense if my mind is in the strong part of my gambling cycle or not.

For instance, when I have won it back and stopped, I was getting bored and tired with gambling. I stopped, but at the time, I told myself that it was because I conquered my gambling and knew when to stop. When I have won it back and kept going, I was in the midst of the cycle of where the excitement was still there.

I am still working on why I start gambling. It usually coincides with the beginning of football. Is it because I think instead of researching stocks to invest money in, I already have good knowledge and I should use that to try to get a bigger payout than stocks? Is it because I do it online and I don't see the money actually transfer from my hands to the cashier? Is it because I consider my life somewhat boring and don't have any current hobbies, and this is the way I can fill the excitement? This may be it since if I am involved in something else like a personal hobby or sport, I don't think about gambling. However, it could be the addictive part of my brain becomes addicted with the new hobby, but it doesn't seem as bad since I'm not losing $12K on credit cards in three months.


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Keep up the great work! One

Keep up the great work! One day at a time.


Great Insight!

You said something that kinda hit me:

"For instance, when I have won it back and stopped, I was getting bored and tired with gambling. I stopped, but at the time, I told myself that it was because I conquered my gambling and knew when to stop. When I have won it back and kept going, I was in the midst of the cycle of where the excitement was still there."

The boredom/excitement cycle interests me. My husband and I have discussed boredom as an aspect of his poker play... specifically he gets bored of playing the game he is "supposed" to be playing and takes a shot at something with higher variance.

I have also joked many times that if anybody wants to quit poker for good just spend the cash on some high quality coaching/math lessons and you will be done with the game for life. I had played some casual poker about 10 years ago but when the whole internet thing hit and all my friends went pro (maybe 5 years ago) I got lessons for about a month and have not enjoyed a single hand of poker since. All I see when those cards are dealt out is a MATH TEST!

My husband happens to LOVE math tests (and any other intellectual test/competition he gets his hands on) so once he has beaten one game he can't seem to stop himself from moving on to a more difficult test.

Has the "make it boring" approach been tried in treatment programs? If yes then what were the results? If no then why the heck not? If a therapist could help a compulsive gambler take the rush out of the game then a lot of people could be freed from this nightmare.


Bored may still be linked to football

I think my initial rush is thinking that since I know a lot about football, I could make decent winnings with it. Having all those games on Saturday and Sunday just stirs the pot of excitement and possibility. I think it also turns me down the path of casino and betting on other sports during the week during the downtime. If I had control during these times, I could just bet on football. However, the sensible approach would be to just bet on one game. My week would be littered with parlays, teasers, pleasers, blackjack, random sports, and stuff to bet on just to have money on the line.

I think my thinking at the time was I could build up more money during the week to bet on football. The parlays were always a key because the thought of just one game seemed "boring." The thoughts since I've stopped lately concern me. For instance, if I won a trip to Vegas, I thought I could allow myself $200 to bet with. However, my thinking is that what could I win with just $200? Why bet at all if I can't win big? This thinking will keep me betting for a while, but it is also the type of thinking that could lead me down a financial burden that I can't dig myself out of. I was able to stop, but I'm not sure if it is because I almost maxed all my credit cards out, or if I got bored and worn down from the three months of losing? I'm fearful if it was October instead of December, I would have found a way to fund my gambling a while longer.