Wife of a Compulsive Gambler


Hi everyone, I am August. I am the wife of a compulsive gambler. I have been married for 14 years. I did not find out about the gambling until 3 years into the marriage. I have come here to talk, vent, ask questions. First, for those that have dealt with this illness, is it possible for a person to be in a casino for days at a time. Right now my husband is on a binge. And to be honest it is like living with a stranger. He lies, he tries to flip the situation, he tries to make it that he is bored at home. He says as long as I give you money than I should be able to do what I want with the rest.

My husband left the house Christmas day and returned Monday December 28, 2015. My Husband left New Years Eve and has not returned yet. He got Paid NYE. Can I tell you on a daily basis, we get advertisements, coupons, offers for hotel stays, free dinners, concert tickets from various casinos in Illinois and Indiana. Along with this he gets calls from finance companies, bill collectors, collection agencies.

Now one thing I did do was take over the finances for the house. Our home is now solely in my name. We don't have any bank accounts together, so our money is separate. He had asked me to keep his bank card and ration money to him for daily expenses. But on December 19, he asked for his card back. I gave it to him because I was not going to argue and fight with him. I have not seen it since the day I gave it to him.

My husband will admit that he gambles. And just recently he admitted that he is on a gambling binge. But that is as far as it goes. He is losing wight. Normally my husband goes to the barber for a hair cut and to get his face shaved weekly. He has not done this in a few weeks now. He looks tired and exhausted. And what is worse he is diabetic and not eating and taking his meds like he should. But he will argue anyone down that he is.

My heart is so heavy over this. We have a six year old son. He adores his daddy. When my husband is good, he is so good and on point. But when he is on a binge, he is a stranger, I don't know this man. When he is like this he gets mean, smart mouth. He doesn't want to talk, he shuts down.

I need to hear from others in this situation. Right now I feel alone and the only person going through this!!!