Hi, I am August and I am the wife of a compulsive gambler. I have been married 14 years. We have a 6 year old son. I did not find out about the gambling until year 3 of marriage. My husband will admit that he is a CG. He has asked me to be over the finances. We have no bank accounts together. Our home is in my name only. He has even given me his bank card and ask that I just give him money for daily expenses....gas, lunch. But I know he still goes to the casinos. He gets advertisements daily from the casinos in Illinois and Indiana. He has gotten concert tickets, dinners, hotel stays, gifts. It is sickening. He can be straight for a few months, but will go on a binge. That is where we are right now. He is on a binge. I would say that he went on the binge at Thanksgiving. On December 18, on his pay day he asked for his bank card back. When I questioned him on why he went Dr. Jekyl and Mr. Hyde on me. It was like a stranger I had never seen.
I have not seen the card since December 18. On Christmas Day he left the house and returned Monday December 28. He had the same clothes on when he left. He got paid NYE. He left and is still gone. My husband lies, he is a stranger that gets mean. He gets belligerent and it is like he does it to get you off him. He tries to flip the situation and put blame on me for going gambling. Which I know is a lie. He will say he is bored. Gambling is exciting. But then when he is coming down off the binge, he is broke, sad, depressed.
When my husband is good, it is so good. But this is the second binge in our marriage and this is bad. It makes my heart is heavy. My husband has gone to GA for about two months. He didn't gamble during that time. But he stopped, like he was all better. When I brought up going back, he raised all kind of hell saying that he can handle the gambling. That is BS!!!! I know I can't make him do anything. He has to want to help himself. He has to want to stop and get help on his own.
I just need to talk and vent for myself. I need to see how others in this situation are handling this. I need the support.