My life so far...


Hi everyone...

Uhm, I'm only 17 years old... but I came on here to talk to others. I just recently found out my father has had a gambling problem for over 5 years, maybe longer, I dont know? My mother told me.. and she doesnt want me to tell my father i know. I get why she doesnt want me to tell him, I know hed feel so ashamed of himself, and I dont even want to think of what he might do to himself... Im absolutely confused though. I really cant tell anyone, and I dont know what to do. She also just told me today he spent about 15,000 dollars, just recently. Which is a lot of money... especially for our family. Apparently hes taken some money from his retirement funds aswell. My mother debated on telling me anything because she doesnt want me to "hate" my father. I could never hate him... I just wish he could understand how much hes hurting us, not just himself. Well... I hope theres others out there just like me.. but for now I dont know any.

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My Life so far
Submitted by Karen on Wed, 2007-02-07 21:38.

Hi Naddy,

Compulsive Gambling is a sickness. There are many programs including Gamblers Annoymous that can help your Father. Please don't worry, as Adults your Mother and Father will be able to find the right solution for your Fathers issues. There are programs to help you and your Mother as well. I know you may feel scared and hurt, but know that your Father loves you and is helpless against his addiction. It's not something he is doing intentionally.

Karen

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Hi Naddy: You are a brave
Submitted by Bach on Wed, 2007-02-07 21:45.

Hi Naddy:

You are a brave person and wise beyond your years for coming here and talking out your father's gambling problem. Some 17 year olds would be watching MTV and reality shows.

I don't know what advice I can give you but to take care of yourself and do everything in your power to finish school and get a good education.

I wish you the best and my prayers are with you.

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Bach, thank you so very much
Submitted by Naddy on Wed, 2007-02-07 21:52.

Bach, thank you so very much for your prayer. And no matter what dont worry, school is a improtant thing in my life. I just hope we all get through this, im mostly afraid of him leaving us for his addiction. I dont think he has the will to do that, but i also dont know if he can stop himself. Yet again, thank you.

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Thanks Karen. My mom is
Submitted by Naddy on Wed, 2007-02-07 21:56.

Thanks Karen. My mom is actually hoping to get my dad into GA meetings... but right now hes in total denial. My fathers like that, hes so ashamed of what hes done, he doesnt want to admit to it. I get that part, cause he really is a kind and generous person. I wish I could see posativily but right now, all thats processing is the negative. Im just scared you know! I mean, Id think most people would be. I know he doesnt do it on purpose, I just hope he finds the will to stop. I dont want it to destroy him, I love him way to much.

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dads got himself into a
Submitted by challis on Fri, 2007-02-09 02:25.

dads got himself into a addiction thats freely avaliable on most streets and the goverment makes so much money from it would go broke if people stopped gambling...ala los vegas...be aware that this addiction gets the brain pumping natural chemicals in our brain to overdose us into a response,which can perpetuate the gambling one does.if possible leave some hints about seeking proffesional help for this addiction,becouse its a long way to the bottom if addiction fully plays itself out