Setting and Achieving Goals


Honesty

1. Define the goal.*

2. Outline the steps needed to achieve it.

3. Consider possible blocks and ways of dealing with them.

4. Set deadlines.

In order for something to be a goal:

• It has to be important to you, personally.
• It has to be within your power to make it happen through your own actions.
• It has to be something you have a reasonable chance of achieving.
• It must be clearly defined and have a specific plan of action.

DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

1. Do you ever set goals for yourself? What are some goals you have right now (short term and long-term)?

2. Agree or disagree: It's better to set lower goals than to risk failure by setting higher ones.

3. In the video, Mike Pritchard told a story about a guy sitting in a Hollywood coffee shop waiting to be discovered. What was the point of that story?

4. What's the difference between a wish and a goal?

5. How do you decide what your goals are?

6. Have you ever set a goal that was unrealistic? What happened? What did you learn from that?

7. Is it ever okay to take risks? What kinds of risks are okay? What kinds of risks are not okay?

8. Have you ever gone out on a limb and risked failure in order to achieve a bigger goal? (describe) Are you glad you took that risk?

9. Has there been a time when you turned a failure into a success? (describe) What did you learn from that?

10. What's the difference between failing and being a failure?

11. If you don't accomplish all your goals does that make you a failure?

12. What are some good ways to deal with disappointments?

13. What is your personal definition of success?

14. Is it a good idea to set goals? Why, what do goals do for you?

15. What was most meaningful to you in this video? Why?

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I think some try not to set goals as it may end up in failure. One of the areas you mention is:

"Have you ever gone out on a limb and risked failure in order to achieve a bigger goal? (describe) Are you glad you took that risk?" -- As gamblers we have all considered ourselves courageous for risking $$ to make $$. However, now we are discovering some goals are faulty...my point is to make goals that are truly worth attaining. We are smart people...we need to use good judgement as to what we will risk. We must keep focused on desirable goals.

Scotty

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Hi Honesty

The support group I was in before used goal setting followed by accountablity as a primary way to achive successful behavioral changes.
It was sturctured a little differently. We used Stands and steps.

A stand... long term goal. The stand always starts with either
I will not...
provide explanations
generously do for my kid
give in to my kid’s demands
impose consequences that don’t work
try to control through rewards/incentives
use verbal or physical intimidation to control
withdraw from confrontation
try to control through game playing
hide personal feelings
complain to or about my kid
accept minimal efforts from my child
lower my standards
feel physically ill or exhausted

wow were did the rest of my very long post go? hummm it disappeared
Well to finish this... After the stand you take weekly steps to get to the stand, small baby steps. I will read a book, call of support, not engage in arguments etc.
It was extremally effective.
Terri

TJChicko