EXPERIENCE, STRENGTH AND HOPE


I was reading some of the postings today and wondering if we can hear from some of our veteran recovering gamblers about their experience with gambling and recovery. My early recovery from drugs was strengthened by hearing how others struggled and manageed to overcome their addictions.

Some of you have already been sharing all along. Just thought I would put that out there for others who may not have told any of their story.

crazylady. Monday February 14, 2005
05:59 PM EST

Hey crazylady Smile
Just want to say, I can't wait to be a veteran Smile
Take care of you
Shelley

What I do is plan for each day, have a daily to do list. I try to get everything done on the list, or as much done as possible. This comes back to living one day at a time. I live in the moment. I avoid gossip, speculation and other people's business.

I express my opinion on this forum because I know it's a safe place to vent my anger and express my feelings. Other than that I stay out of people's business and devote as much resources to myself as possible. This way I can get much more done. At the end of the day I'm happy with what I've achieved.

If anyone asks me for help, I rarely turn them down. The only time I turn them down is if what they're asking to do comprises my values and ethics. Helping people makes me feel good. Helping myself makes me feel good, too.

I find that I'm much more peaceful when I stay out of people's business and devote time and energy to myself. As a compulsive gambler, my nose was always in other people's business-- I had to borrow money from them, lie to them about my whereabouts, then lie to cover more lies.

If I want to change the world, I start with the person I see the mirror everyday. That's the way I approach life these days. Well, there's much more to it but this is the short version.

I enjoy this peace.

Honesty

Honesty,
I love reading all of your posts. They work for me. I feel like we share planets.
Thanks
Terri

 

PS we share planets...but you've moved into a better neiborhood : )

Hi Crazylady Smile
I was thinking today about your asking for help with what works for others. I have some small suggestions, nothing huge but some things that worked for me. I too made a list of things to get done in a day. At first it was a struggle to get even number one done! Thats ok...anything accomplished is better than gambling.

I also took some quiet time in my life. It was easier for me because it was over the Christmas break. I found that I was very tired, likely from all the emotional strain. So I napped. The world went on around me while I rested. I know that's not always easy to do, but take a few moments now and then to decompress and think about NOTHING if you can.

Another habit I've developed: Tall Latte via Starbucks. I am not sure how this evolved, but when I went to town, I started going to grab my latte. I never used to drink it. I think it gave me something to think about to avoid driving past the casino...it's close, but the only way out is kind of a roundabout way....and it doesnt involve going near the casino. Then I started to grab one before my GA meetings. Its kind of a treat, and I now associate it with post-gambling days Smile Every time I have a latte, I relax and think about THIS time in my life, not THAT time..if you know what I mean.

Another thing I have noticed is that I haven't been drinking enough water. Casino days always involved a hot cup of coffee and a water bottle. I just kind of realized the other day that I wasn't drinking much water. Since Monday I have been drinking more water...and my body is liking it! No more tired at 3 pm feeling a need for a nap. The brain needs H2O...you have probably heard all the info. Something to think about.

Journal...write...vent! I think this was the one thing that helped me the most. When I quit gambling I had all this time to think...and they werent great thoughts for the most part. Getting it out on paper was good....I rambled and ranted... and went back and re-read. I gained some understanding. It really does help.

Fresh air too- I would up and go outside for walks a lot..when it was warm enough. Breathe deeply and think about whats ahead...not whats behind Smile

I did a lot of throwing away. Not really house-cleaning LOL Just bumbling through a closet and chucking stuff. I REALLY went through my wardrobe and got rid of all my "casino clothes" The comfy stuff I used to wear because I knew I would be sitting all day. Threw away my purse too. Nothing wrong with it except I hated looking at it. With the purse went all the cash withdrawal slips....except I saved the ones from my LDG as a reminder.

I dug out my painting stuff. I spend a lot of time doing it again now. Grab a new hobby or revisit an old one, if you can. Smile

Hmm, about it. Like I said, nothing earth-shattering in the way of advice, but small things that helped me Smile Hope something helps you.

And, I know I say it a lot...should make it my signature,
It WILL get better Smile
Wishing you a solid 24 gamble free Crazylady
Hugs,
Shelley

Shelley,
Thank you for sharing all that you do to help you work at recovery and living life again.. I needed to read that tonight.. it has helped me to remember a few things I enjoy doing as well.. Im starting over, as you know.. this past wkend I slipped and have been hesitant to post it here on the gamblinghelpers site. I have shared my slip on my own board.. I know I have to be very honest in my recovery in order for me to make real progress.. It was a very hard thing for me to confess.. this addiction is evil and my recovery has been hard, but I will not give up and I will not let this stop me from finding what I need to live a gamble free life and give me happiness.. thank you for giving me something more to think about and work on for myself.. Hugs lilaud

Shelley,

That is an awesome post. Please keep up the good work.

Thank-you for sharing that with everyone.

Admin

Thank you all for your posts. Today I am stressed and the addict in me is trying to take twelve days at a time. Llaud...hugs to you, my heart goes out to you. Give yourself lots of kudos for coming back and telling us all. We love you and you'll make it!! You have given a lot to others on this site, and like I was once told....now let others give to you in your time of need.

Me I need something for the anxiety I am feeling right now. I am coming right out of my skin!! No Gambling however, not even an inkling of an urge so I guess I can be greatful for that Smile

Hope everyone has a serene gamble free day, if anyone has some extra serenity to share, I sure could use some right now.

crazylady

Hello Crazylady, sorry im late on my reply..had a ga meeting last night, and also doing other things to keep me back on track.. I hope by now the anxiety has lifted somewhat.. at least you are confident you know that gambling is not an option.. keep working on that thinking also, take some really deep breathes.. do that for about 10 minutes, breath in slow and deep and out slow and deep.. concentrate on something positive.. I know it will relieve the anxiety.. try it.. Hope today is a much more relaxing day for you.. thank you for all your words of encouragement.. I really do appreciate them. hugs lilaud


I Love This So Far.........

This is exactly what I've been looking for. I need to have help at my fingertips, right now. In between Therapy Appts. and G.A. Meetings. They say misery loves company-but in my I say, if you can express yourselve truthfully while helping others feel good why not. And just the little I've read so far I think this is where I want to be. I have to replace this Gambling Habit with a Hobby. I'm just not sure what kind of Hobby I would like.


I Love This So Far.........

This is exactly what I've been looking for. I need to have help at my fingertips, right now. In between Therapy Appts. and G.A. Meetings. They say misery loves company-but in my I say, if you can express yourselve truthfully while helping others feel good why not. And just the little I've read so far I think this is where I want to be. I have to replace this Gambling Habit with a Hobby. I'm just not sure what kind of Hobby I would like.